I have friends who are active in the national political arena. I have a friend who is attending documentary school in New York. My partner just went to Mozambique to work with health ministers there on issues related to HIV/AIDS. While they are all out there movin’ and a shakin’, I am trying to figure out what Miguel can use as bowling pins for the gingerbread bowling alley that he is planning. When my friends talk about their work around issues of white privilege, it is hard to work in a cute anecdote about my baby walking around with a pull-up on her head. When my friend talks about his documentary project on terrorism, I listen intently and ask questions but I feel like we live in completely different worlds. My family is what is most important to me and it makes me feel so damn old fashioned. I may be a lesbian but I seem to have more in common with June Cleaver with every passing day. Before you know it, you’ll show up at my house to find me in a snappy little cocktail dress. I’ll press a martini in your hand, call you “dear” and then retreat to my room to polish my pearls. I’m a feminist, for god’s sake. Why do I sometimes feel like being a good mother is just not enough?
Your kids are going to influence the world significantly in their own way and they have you to learn from. That's huge!
I'm also sure your friends won't think any less of you if you include a little antedote about your children every now and then.